Don’t Give Up

This past Sunday at church, we heard a message on the commandment “Do not commit adultery.”
Pretty cut and dry, no?
Our pastor covered all ranges of the topic, and one part of the message really struck me.
Do not give up on your marriage.
Now, we haven’t had anything bad happen in our marriage (thankfully).  No cheating, no bad things, no big issues.  However, in my heart and mind, I was ready and able to leave if those things happened.
I would say (to myself and to others) “I love Tyler a lot, but I won’t put up with cheating.”  or “I would never stay if he did X,Y, or Z.”
That is not the right view of our marriage.
Now, of course, I’ve never been in those situations and I don’t know how I would respond when faced with those things.  I know there are lots of situations where it is best for people to end marriages. However, I know my response on this side of the bad stuff shouldn’t be to walk away.  My response should be to fight.  To never give up.  Our marriage is important to me.  It is sacred.  It is a covenant with God, with Tyler, with our families, and our friends.  When we said our vows they are forever.
I talked with Tyler after church how that message affected me.  That I was no longer going to have the nonchalant attitude, even in jest or in passing.  That in my heart, our marriage was something to fight for (even when there is no battle raging). 
We have a wonderful relationship.  I married the man of my dreams.  He is a fantastic partner, love, and friend.  I would do anything to keep that.  And I’m devoted to that. 


  1. You are so right!! Marriage is a covenant among two people and God, and the Lord takes that very seriously!

  2. sounds like you have a great marriage!

  3. I LOVED reading this post, Britt! About eight years ago, God worked a total miracle in my marriage. Never did I think that I would come so close to losing it, but I did. I fought hard and prayed and clung to the Lord like never before. My husband did the same. Because during the fight to keep our marriage intact, the Lord reminded us of the covenant we made with Him and what His word says about divorce and also about loving our spouses.

    After 20 years of marriage, God gets all the glory! And this post was a great reminder to give thanks to Him yet again for the miracle He supplied!

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